Are You Going on a Babymoon?

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Many couples I know schedule a relaxing vacation during pregnancy. These “babymoons” are both a way for them to spend some quality time together as a twosome before the baby arrives and, for a lot of people (especially first-time parents), because they’re afraid this is the last time they’ll be able to do anything fun or go anywhere cool for a good long while.

I think there’s something sad about treating a babymoon as the last hurrah before the end of your carefree life as you know it, or at least for the next 18 years. Yes, kids put a hit on your time and finances and desire to bunjee jump from your ankles into a deep ravine, but I also know that many teeny-tiny babies are surprisingly travel-friendly, and I still regret turning down an invitation to a wedding in Puerto Vallarta when my first son was 2 months old. We totally should have gone.

But, if you’re lucky enough to be planning a babymoon, here are a few things to remember:

Don’t overdo it. This is not the time to go backpacking across Europe, ziplining through a jungle canopy, or stuffing your face with exotic street food of questionable origin.

  • Travel during the 2nd trimester will make the most sense for the majority of pregnant women. You’re over the 1st-trimester sickness and fatigue, and you’re not yet gigantic and uncomfortable and having trouble walking and sleeping. (Body pillows take up a lot of room in a suitcase.)
  • If you’re going by plane, you’ll definitely want to make sure you schedule your trip while you’re still cleared to fly. Although most airlines will let you fly up to a week before your due date with a doctor’s note, some companies start restricting pregnant women from flying as early as 28 weeks. Also, consider how much you’ll enjoy a vacation that involves several hours trapped in an airplane seat with a giant belly and swollen ankles and the need to pee every ten minutes.
  • If you can’t fly off to Hawaii for two weeks (whether because you can’t afford it or because you’re dealing with pregnancy complications and can’t be too far away from your doctor), consider planning a babymoon closer to home. Maybe all you need is a weekend in a local bed and breakfast. It’s not the “where” that counts but the “what”; take time for you and your partner to step away from the daily grind and just be together.
  • Don’t spend the entire trip fretting about the future with the baby. As much as possible, try to live in the moment and enjoy this getaway. And if you see a good deal on a poolside foot massage, say yes!

Did you/will you go on a babymoon?