Sex After the Baby
Iâ€™ve totally felt unsexy after having my babies. I felt huge â€“ all over. I felt as though things would never look or feel the same. I was leakingâ€¦ everywhere!! Some days my clothes were wet from hearing the sound of my babyâ€™s cries and not from the sound of my husbandâ€™s footsteps. I lacked sleep so I was moody and cranky. Of course I didnâ€™t want to be touched!
My poor hubby. He just wanted intimacy and I was giving all my attention to the new little person in the house. Thank goodness he was so patient. I was very grateful
One thing that helped was talking to each other. I expressed my desire to be closer but told him how I felt, both physically and emotionally. He was receptive but I knew that he was disappointed. So I did what I couldâ€¦.
I sat close to him. I held his hand. Iâ€™d kiss him at random moments after putting the baby down for a nap. I nuzzled and hugged and later down the road, we became intimate again. It didnâ€™t happen overnight. We laughed at my leaking breasts and took care of my â€śissuesâ€ť (do yourself a favor and invest in womenâ€™s lubricant!). We made sure we protected ourselves. No new pregnancy to go with the new baby. Yikes.
Maybe youâ€™ve tried this and itâ€™s still a struggle. Its OK to not feel sexy. Times does heal.
In what ways do you bring romance back after having a baby? What ways did your partner help?
Kristi Gilbert also known as The Robot Mommy started blogging after successfully getting her son to eat by talking like a robot. She then transformed into said robot and has been writing about her familyâ€™s adventures ever since. Inspired by her infant daughter, imaginative toddler son and supportive husband, she documents life as she knows it: chaotic, coffee soaked and filled with awesomeness.