Sex After the Baby
I’ve totally felt unsexy after having my babies. I felt huge – all over. I felt as though things would never look or feel the same. I was leaking… everywhere!! Some days my clothes were wet from hearing the sound of my baby’s cries and not from the sound of my husband’s footsteps. I lacked sleep so I was moody and cranky. Of course I didn’t want to be touched!
My poor hubby. He just wanted intimacy and I was giving all my attention to the new little person in the house. Thank goodness he was so patient. I was very grateful
One thing that helped was talking to each other. I expressed my desire to be closer but told him how I felt, both physically and emotionally. He was receptive but I knew that he was disappointed. So I did what I could….
I sat close to him. I held his hand. I’d kiss him at random moments after putting the baby down for a nap. I nuzzled and hugged and later down the road, we became intimate again. It didn’t happen overnight. We laughed at my leaking breasts and took care of my “issues” (do yourself a favor and invest in women’s lubricant!). We made sure we protected ourselves. No new pregnancy to go with the new baby. Yikes.
Maybe you’ve tried this and it’s still a struggle. Its OK to not feel sexy. Times does heal.
In what ways do you bring romance back after having a baby? What ways did your partner help?
Kristi Gilbert also known as The Robot Mommy started blogging after successfully getting her son to eat by talking like a robot. She then transformed into said robot and has been writing about her family’s adventures ever since. Inspired by her infant daughter, imaginative toddler son and supportive husband, she documents life as she knows it: chaotic, coffee soaked and filled with awesomeness.